On Sat, I wrote down the plans for next season. I reflected on last season. What I did good, did bad, area that need improvement...strengths...weakness...
A large part is planning my training is ensuring that my life and my priorities are align. When I talk about alignment, I am considering am I creating the optimum enviornment for me to train. Taking a holistic approach. For example, to have a night life of going out 2-3 am at night will not be a good alignment to training (especially if I have to get up at 6 and do those long bike rides).
From last season, I learnt that life has its up and down. Sometimes, training has to be tune down for other priorities (a death in the family, increasing work load etc.) To design a training to rigid without taking them into considerations will be dangerous (mentally and emotionally). In other words, a training program should be flexible to allow sudden speed bumps along the way.
To expect training 12,15,18 hours a week without any changes to my daily schedule is foolish. Here are some of the things I am willing to sacrifice for Ironman:
- side business with friends
- msn and internet at night (big time killer)
- blogs (if you notice, I stop posting as much on comments...)
- tv (not a big issue but I do have 20 min tv time per week where I just veg)
- Church commitments
- reduce social gatherings (once a week is once a week, go home early is go home early)
On the other hand...I do love getting up early on Sun morning, bike down to the lake and watch the sunrise. Priceless!!
There are four areas in my life that is my priority:
- Church and fellowship(for my spiritual growth)
- Family (I don't think I need to explain this one)
- Training (Ironman)
- Job (we all need to make a living)
Note: One area will dominate more of my time than the other. Example, if I have a new job, I will need to spend more time and energy to learn and other areas will be tune down. When summer comes, training will become a higher priority.
What about friends? This is a very touchy subject.
One can say that a true friend will support what you do. There are times when a friendship becomes more of a transaction. You invite me and I will come. When I invite you for my social outings, I assume you will return the favour. If someone breaks this unwritten contract, the friendship falters.
I meet up with my university friends (about 6 of us) every 3-4 months. Our friendship grow even more than when we meet at school everyday. I am glad and enjoy that the friendship prospers despite the lack of contact we have with each other.
I do not enjoy analyzing friendship too closely. I found that I become too harsh (you don't come out when we meet, not a friend). My friend and I were discussing about how some friendship become stronger and some become weaker. The best way to view is that everyone goes through life and at one point, the friendship might be 'weaker'. In the future it might grow again. So I will take it as that.
What I am trying to do is not to have negative emotions with friends. It is very easy to say..'oh this friend is no longer a friend b/c I invite him and he never comes out.' Well sometimes he is just busy and he has other important things in life. Sometimes my friend get mad b/c he can't make it to something we plan. That's cool. No need to get upset over it.
A few Friday ago, I had two friends bailed on me. One supposed to play squash. He was snoozing when I was waiting at the court. Normally I would get mad b/c I expected him to keep his commitment. No biggies. It is just a social thing. I had my swim gears so I hit the pool instead. Later that night, I was suppose to celebrate with a friend b/c it was her b-day and she had no plan. She ditched us and went with her friends to clubbing. Oh well, I had a great time with other friends at a pool hall.
I hope just b/c the title of this post is sacrifice, I ain't here to say I am sacrificing my friends :)...just flowing with my thoughts.
Back to sacrifice. Last night, my other friend had a problem about making a decision that will affect her life. Throughout the discussion, I advise her to find out what she wants (her priority) and what she is willing to sacrifice.
The more I live life, the more I realize that it ain't always about accomplish or accumulate as much as you can. Rather, it is about sacrificing what you can do (or even tempt to do) and focus on what you want to do. If I don't know what I want in life (be it building a closer relationship with God, or taking care of my family), how will I know which decision to make or what am I willing to sacrifice to get me there?
For example, I get a big promotion and a big raise. In return, I have to work 70 hrs a week. If my focus is to spend time with my (future) kids, how will I have time to do that? My goal and my actions contradict (not align) each other.
Enough thoughts for a Monday morning.